how to translate your inevitable but scary dream into action
In my last newsletter talked about a two-part formula to help you when you don’t know what your next step should be.
We aligned that your best next move meets at the intersection of what feels inevitable and a little scary.
And assuming you completed the journal exercises to help give you clarity, you probably have that next *thing* in your head.
Amazing.
…but now what do you do?
Figuring out that dream doesn’t mean that going after it doesn’t still feel overwhelming.
This goal probably feels big and scary and very far away.
So, where do you even begin??
It’s normal to feel nervous about committing to this dream.
The good news is that I’m not offering you advice to “just go for it!!!” “Ignore all your anxieties and take the plunge!!!” “Go big or go home!!!!’
Instead I’d ask, what’s the the next smallest step that takes you closer to this dream that still feels exciting (and not anxiety-inducing).
how to know what to do next
This question comes up allllll the time in my 1:1 sessions. Clients come and they wonder, ‘how should I spend my energy and gifts?’ ‘Where should I be investing and pouring my energy?’ ‘What’s the next right thing for me to pursue?!’ “What should I be doing NEXT!?”
I get it. You feel so full of potential, of creative energy and you’re eager to pour it into something meaningful. To pour your heart and soul into something that you’re proud of, that feels like a piece of you.
But time and time again we wonder….what *is* that thing??!?!
A peek into my notes app
My notes app is a beautiful mess of quotes and words that struck me in some meaningful way. Words that bring me peace, or that surprise me, or that help me see the world in a different way. I return to these phrases when I need a nudge of courage or a spark of inspiration.
So today I want to share a series of three quotes and phrases that help me move through periods of anxiety and stress in hopes that it might serve you too:
You’re not stuck in a circle, you’re riding an upwards spiral
We've all been there. Whether it's noticing similar challenges in a new relationship, or feeling like your hard-earned progress in self-acceptance has taken a backseat, it's easy to feel trapped in a never-ending loop of the same old issues. That's when we find ourselves in what I playfully call the "circle of doom."
But what if I told you that this isn't a circle at all? It's actually an upwards spiral, and it holds the key to your growth and transformation.
IS IT AN ISSUE WITH SELF CONTROL OR with SELF TRUST?
I used to think that my binging was as simple as not having self control. Of being broken because my “off” switch wasn’t working.
What I’ve now learned is that my binge was not related to self-control, but related to my ability to self-comfort.
the 3 lessons that rocked me in 2022
I love end of year reflections.
I’m a researcher, a listener by nature, so naturally love this opportunity to analyze and reflect. To create a story based upon my experiences of the year.
Deep down I believe we’re all storytellers. Listening and telling stories is how we as human beings make sense of our lives.
Do you have a toxic relationship to shame?
What I mean is, do you secretly believe that without shame you your situation would never change?
Do you secretly hold onto shame because without it, you would repeat the same patterns?
A lesson on olives & people pleasing 🫒🫒
Every time you betray your deepest, authentic self by appeasing others, you're not only wounding yourself, but you're blocking the potential to find the true olive lovers of the world.
Like olives, if someone doesn't "get" you, it doesn't mean you aren't worthy (that or aren't delicious).
It just means there is a difference of tastes here. And that is deeply okay.
let’s talk about anger
Your anger is a valuable, powerful signal. It’s telling you something that needs to be healed or address. Listen to it.
who decides what’s “good enough” for you?
When you allow others to determine what “good”, you're always going to feel empty and overwhelmed.