the 3 lessons that rocked me in 2022
I love end of year reflections.
I’m a researcher, a listener by nature, so naturally love this opportunity to analyze and reflect. To create a story based upon my experiences of the year.
Deep down I believe we’re all storytellers. Listening and telling stories is how we as human beings make sense of our lives.
In the lovingly looking back and revealing in how far we’ve come, how much we’ve achieved or felt, we develop a sense of self trust and healthy pride.
So I was naturally excited to complete review of my year exercise (more on this to come) and tease out the biggest lessons this year brought me.
2022 was dynamic, fulfilling, intense, exhilarating, and grounding in ways I couldn’t have expected.
It’s been a year where I’ve never felt more like myself, never felt so surrounded by a community of people who love me.
So let’s get into the reflections!
1. You don’t need to leap for the scariest part of your dreams. Go for the thing on the edge of your comfort zone. Reach for the thing that’s just scary enough for your nervous system to handle.
I knew this was the year I was going to finally pursue my dream of sharing my coaching business.
But my nervous system was not prepared to go full announcement mode on social media.
Ain’t no way.
I was not yet prepared to handle the possible judgement from other. Heck, I didn’t even know what I wanted to say to the world.
So instead of going full out immediately, I had to find the edge of my comfort zone.
And earlier this year, the edge of my comfort zone looked like sharing a slightly vulnerable Instagram post about my new intention on showing up on social media. It was a big contrast to my sarcastic, pithy IG captions.
Edge touched. I did it.
So then I looked for my next edge, which led me to building a website (bare bones) and beginning a newsletter.
Next edge: I started a Tik Tok account, where I even went viral for sharing some life changing advice I received in my early 20s.
By the end of 2023 I had made that leap. I announced to the world the beginning of my coaching business.
And I did it all not by flooding my capacity for discomfort. Not for doing the absolute scariest thing, but rather by being gentle with my self and stretching for the next scariest thing, while still checking to see if I could handle the discomfort.
And bit by bit, edge by edge, I traveled so far.
2. Rooting in a home, in a community, and in friendships can be equally, if not more, fulfilling than sexy and exotic trips and romantic flings.
2022 was a sharp juxtaposition from 2021. 2021 was a year of nomadic travel and from healing from a heart break that left me figuring out how to put the pieces of my life and self confidence back together.
2021 was a hard year for building roots and community. My time was spent immersing myself in beautiful places, and reflecting inward.
So 2022 was a year of rooted immersion.
Of building a home and declining travel plans.
Staying put meant I was able to say yes to spontaneous dinner invites, to coffees, to consistent morning routines, to making new friends, long phone calls, and investing in the moments that build a deep friendship.
It was a year of hard conversations, of friends calling me up, but also a year where I was around to SHOW up.
To be of service and pour my love into others, into my community.
Society oftentimes tells us that romantic love is the most fulfilling experience. But I’ve learned that this isn’t true.
2022 showed me the incredible fulfillment that comes from having a community of platonic but deeply committed people that care for you.
And I learned how to care for those around me in a way that you only can when you are available and at home.
3. Investing in high quality, high integrity support is the fastest way to super charge your life and break through limiting beliefs.
In 2022 I stopped trying to do it all by myself. Not because I can’t, but because I was ready to relax into the loving guidance of others. To be held and cheered on while I navigated my own life.
I hired a badass coach (Hi Rae) and opted for their highest support and highest monetary ticket item.
The intense accountability, radical honesty, and challenging of my personal beliefs empowered me to make the forward movement I’ve been avoiding for YEARS.
In mid 2022, I joined an entrepreneurial group where I received support, care, and encouragement from other people experiencing similar fears and goals in the midst of building a business.
The holiness of community in pursuing your dreams cannot be understated. The validation and encouragement nourished my soul.
I hired a holistic western doctor, a Chinese doctor, and energy healers to help me investigate a longstanding autoimmune condition (psoriasis) and embarked on a journey of tests, herbal medicines, SIBO tests, elimination diets, and a lot of frustration AND insight.
Investing in myself by investing in the expertise of others radically changed my perception of help.
Not only did I receive the support I needed to navigate new and challenging moments, I was also spending my money (and energy) supporting people who are truly of service to others.
The energetic wheel of spending money with people who are delivering service full of integrity and care feels incredibly right. I am showing care for myself and for my community.
So thank you 2022 for the incredibly powerful lessons
And I’m humbly looking forward to the lessons of 2023.
So tell me..
What lessons did you learn this last year?
How will you take these lessons into 2023?
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Psst! I’m here to support you too.
With an absurdly grateful heart, I’m excited to share how we can work together right now. I’m opening up a limited number of 3 - 6 month 1:1 client spots (!!!) for those people ready to receive customzied support on how to unlock the next level of their growth and life.
So if you’re ready to explore what this 1:1 support looks like, email me at hello@oliviaclairehill.com and we can set up a call to get to know each other and I can share more about the 1:1 process!
